Friday, September 28, 2012

So that's why she wants me to be happier!

I note with interest a report in the Telegraph about a Norwegian survey of modern couples.

Divorce rates are far higher among “modern” couples who share the housework than in those where the woman does the lion’s share of the chores, a Norwegian study has found.

. . .

The figures clearly show that “the more a man does in the home, the higher the divorce rate,” [Mr. Hansen] went on.

The reasons, Mr Hansen said, lay only partially with the chores themselves.

“Maybe it’s sometimes seen as a good thing to have very clear roles with lots of clarity ... where one person is not stepping on the other’s toes,” he suggested.

“There could be less quarrels, since you can easily get into squabbles if both have the same roles and one has the feeling that the other is not pulling his or her own weight.”

But the deeper reasons for the higher divorce rate, he suggested, came from the values of “modern” couples rather than the chores they shared.

“Modern couples are just that, both in the way they divide up the chores and in their perception of marriage” as being less sacred, Mr Hansen said. “In these modern couples, women also have a high level of education and a well-paid job, which makes them less dependent on their spouse financially.

They can manage much easier if they divorce,” he said.

. . .

The survey appeared to contradict another recent one across seven countries including Britain that found that men who shouldered a bigger share of domestic responsibilities had a better sense of wellbeing and enjoyed a better work-life balance.

The researchers expected to find that where men shouldered more of the burden, women’s happiness levels were higher. In fact they found that it was the men who were happier while their wives and girlfriends appeared to be largely unmoved.

There's more at the link.

Note the bold print in the last paragraph.  Is that what Miss D. means when she says she wants me to be even happier in our relationship?



MSgt B said...

Ha Ha

You wish.

DaddyBear said...

Meh. I just do housework because I see it needs doing. It wasn't long into our relationship that we had the "You can tell me what to do, or you can tell me how to do it, but not both" discussion. It's worked out pretty well so far.