I was going to make this article part of my "Doofus Of The Day" series, but on reflection, that's probably not fair. The victim isn't a doofus - just someone almost completely out of touch with reality. The blame for that lies just as much with the society, and the family, that permitted that to occur, as it does with the individual.
A cancer diagnosis is a life-changing moment, and especially difficult during a pandemic. But for non-binary musician Rae Spoon, the diagnosis has stirred up another layer of complication.
Spoon, who uses the singular they pronoun, had been in the middle of cancelling flights for a planned tour of the U.K., Canada and Europe due to the COVID-19 pandemic when they received a phone call from their doctor saying Spoon had tested positive for cervical cancer.
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... the diagnosis was another "shock" altogether, and one that's been made difficult because cervical cancer is what Spoon calls a "gendered cancer."
"All of the information I looked up … it's very hard to find any resources that don't involve gendering the person who has cervical cancer as a woman," they said.
As a non-binary person, Spoon does not identify as a man or woman. Spoon says having a gendered cancer means people will make assumptions about their gender and how they should be treated.
Spoon, who came out as transgender 20 years ago and then non-binary eight years ago, says the thought of being misgendered and being addressed with the wrong pronouns during treatment is an added stressor in a time already full of anxiety.
There's more at the link.
I read that and my mind boggled at the sheer, willful blindness exhibited by the victim. Facts are facts, and fanciful mental pictures of who and/or what "they" are won't change those facts.
- Cervical cancer affects only women, because men don't have a cervix. If you're not a woman, you won't get cervical cancer (just as, if you're not a man, you won't get prostate cancer). The fact that you have got it means that you are a woman, whether you like that or not. Period. (You should pardon the expression.)
- Your sex (which is also, medically speaking, your gender, despite all the psychological claptrap blathered about the two being separate issues) is determined by your chromosomes. With the vanishingly small exception of those who are intersex (far less than 1% of the human population, according to medical science), if your chromosomes are XX, you're female; if they're XY, you're male. All the wishful thinking in the world can't and won't change that. Period.
- If doctors tried to treat your cancer as if you were anything other than female, they wouldn't be able to succeed, and you'd die. It's because they know you're female - your opinions, desires and feelings to the contrary notwithstanding - that there's a chance they can cure you using treatment(s) designed for females.
I'm sorry if this gives "they" offense, but I flatly refuse to participate, either by omission or by commission, in a societal and medical lie. Spoon is female, both in sex and in gender. "Their" doctors obviously concur, even if "they" can't wrap "their" mind around the concept. To maintain anything else would be insane. It would defy reality.