... here are two items of interest. Both deal with sensitive issues, and may be offensive to some readers, so I suggest you don't read further if you want to avoid such difficulties. Also, if you haven't yet read yesterday's article, I suggest you do so before continuing.
First, here's a TEDx talk by Gail Dines titled "Growing Up in a Pornified Culture". It shows very clearly the sort of society in which our young ladies are growing up - and it's terrifying to anyone of a more traditional morality. If you're a parent, you should watch the whole thing.
Next, an article that appeared this morning at The Free Press titled "The Woman Who Stood Up to the Porn Industry—and Won". Here's an excerpt.
Not only has Schlegel curbed the billion-dollar online porn industry for the first time in history, forcing websites to protect kids in Louisiana and pull out of at least three U.S. states, she has offered a legislative blueprint for others across the country.
“I am truly humbled to see that we began a movement that has swept the country and began a long overdue conversation about how we can protect kids from hardcore pornography,” she says.
Schlegel’s crusade started back in December 2021. She had listened to The Howard Stern Show and 21-year-old pop sensation Billie Eilish talking about online porn. Eilish told Stern that she began watching “abusive” images at the age of 11, and that this had warped her sense of how to behave during sex and what women’s bodies look like.
“No vagina looks like this,” Eilish told Stern. “I feel incredibly devastated that I was exposed to so much porn.”
Schlegel was struck by Eilish’s openness, that she was “just a young girl being vulnerable enough to share those details with the world.”
The singer’s story also chimed with Schlegel’s professional experience both as a sex addiction therapist and a court-appointed special advocate for abused and neglected children in the foster care system. She knew the issues facing young clients raised on unlimited free online porn—the decoupling of intimacy from sex; the inability to get aroused without porn playing in the background; a warped idea of what your partner actually wants.
“If you’ve never had your first kiss but you’ve seen hardcore pornography, it’s going to mold the way you view sexuality,” Schlegel said. “You’re not dealing with a fully formed adult brain that's like, ‘Oh, so I shouldn’t strangle my partner?’ ”
If Schlegel understood the damage pornography causes, she also knew how easy it is for children to access it. And she realized that now she was a state legislator, she was uniquely positioned to do something about it.
There's more at the link. Recommended reading.
Both of these resources help to explain why modern relationships are so sexualized, and how they exclude so many traditional aspects of femininity and the marital bond that we discussed yesterday. I hope they help make sense of the mess so many of our relationships are in.