Lissa has a question on her blog that's drawing a fair amount of comment.
In order for us to rationally discuss the item of controversy, we must first lay the baseline:
If at any point during sexual congress (and that means before and also means mid-coitus) Person A says “Don’t”, “Stop”, or “I don’t want to do this”, if Person B does not immediately stop then s/he is committing rape.
Period. The End. If you don’t believe this, kindly seek the nearest exit, because you are not welcome at my blog. Ever.
However, I am VERY confident that my regular visitors are still here, so let us continue to my question:
Is it possible for there to be an incident of rape without any participating party being a rapist?
I say yes.
There's more at the link, including specific examples that she uses to illustrate her point. She invites responses from her readers.
I thought I'd offer the same question to my readers here. Please click over to Lissa's blog, read her post (and the already-numerous replies to it), and respond there yourself, if you feel so inclined. I think we all might benefit from the dialog.