Sunday, August 17, 2008
Another counseling day
I went back to the counseling situation I mentioned yesterday, and hope I was able to do some good. We'll see if the time spent this weekend bears fruit in the next few weeks.
A few thoughts to share with you.
Why, oh, why is it that some people seem to think that marriage is something one does once, in a church or registry office - and then ignores?
I find the Biblical wisdom, "where your treasure is, there will your heart be also" is very, very appropriate when applied to marriage.
If your spouse is the person you love; if you're planning to spend the rest of your lives together; if you hope to raise children together; then that spouse, and your relationship with her, had better be your treasure, and you'd better have your heart there!
If spouses basically burn out by working hard each day, coming home tired, fix a hurried meal for the kids, put them to bed, drink a few shots in front of the TV, and collapse into an exhausted sleep, where's the communication?
If they never make quality time for one another, do things together, shut the world out periodically and just spend time enjoying one another, how on earth do they expect the initial rosy glow of marriage to last?
It got to the point this morning where I became fed up with the slanging. I placed a mirror on the table and told the couple concerned, "If you want to know the root cause of the problems you're experiencing, look in the mirror. You can't blame anyone but yourself." When they objected that they both couldn't be equally to blame, my response was, "Oh, yeah?"
I hope they listened.