I'm kinda fuming with anger, disgust and a few other emotions this evening.
This afternoon I was asked to help a young lady who's been the victim of a couple of property crimes, and is worried about the criminals returning when she's alone at home at night. She'd spoken to her boyfriend about learning to shoot, but the dumbass had tried to play the macho idiot by handing her a lightweight twelve-gauge shotgun, without teaching her a thing about stance, grip, control or the like. Needless to say, she found the recoil very painful, and was now scared of firearms in general and shotguns in particular!
Her mom, whom I taught to use a shotgun several years ago, managed to persuade her to try again, and called me in for a bit of remedial therapy. The three of us spent two hours this afternoon talking her through how to stand, how to hold a shotgun, and how to aim and fire it. We started off with a .22 rifle, which has no recoil at all and is very easy to shoot, then progressed through a 20ga. shotgun with low-recoil birdshot, before graduating to buckshot and slugs. Needless to say, with proper instruction, she handled it all beautifully, and even had a go with a cut-down 12ga. double-barrel shotgun by the end of the day. The smile on her face was a pleasure to behold. It's amazing what it does for your self-confidence to realize that you can, indeed, protect yourself.
I've lent her one of my Mossberg 500 20ga. pump-action shotguns for a few days, and we're going shotgun shopping in the morning. Academy Sports has just what she needs in stock, and she'll buy her own gun and get it set up to fit her. She feels a whole lot more comfortable about defending herself now, and I can almost bring myself to feel sorry for any crook who decides that she's a defenseless young thing just waiting for an after-dark visit without prior invitation. I think she's now more than capable of demonstrating to him the error of his ways, and will become more so with ongoing practice (which her mom promised to make sure she gets). Best of all, after realizing what a dumbass her boyfriend was, she's not exactly pleased with him. I have a feeling that relationship is headed for the waste-paper-basket of history!
I'd like to show a few examples to any ladies who've encountered dumbasses with shotguns, so you know what to look for - and what to avoid! Here are two idiots, to start things off.
Please do seek competent instruction, and become familiar with a very useful tool to keep yourself and your loved ones safe - and don't learn from dumbasses! Better still, don't have dumbass boyfriends who think that hurting you is funny!
EDITED ON 2015/01/05 TO ADD: Here's another example of a dumbass giving someone a gun they can't handle. It still makes me angry!